Putting yourself first can feel incredibly uncomfortable when you have spent most of your life prioritizing everyone else’s needs, happiness, and expectations. At 42, one of the biggest lessons I have had to learn is that I cannot keep lighting myself on fire to keep other people warm. For much of my life, I thought […]

The Great Fall Back might be exactly what you need if the pressure to “lock in” for the final quarter of the year already has you feeling exhausted. Every fall, the productivity conversation seems to shift toward the same message: You have three months left. This is your chance to go all in, get incredibly […]

Asking for help can feel incredibly uncomfortable when you’ve built your identity around being capable, dependable, and the person who always gets things done. Maybe you’re the one everyone calls when something needs to be handled. Maybe you’re the person who rarely says, “I need help.” Or maybe you’ve gotten so used to doing everything […]

Learning how to fix your relationship with yourself starts with a question that may be uncomfortable to answer: How good of a friend are you to yourself? You may be showing up for everyone else, keeping your commitments, supporting the people you love, and making sure everyone around you is okay all while giving yourself […]

If you’ve spent most of your life taking care of everyone else, learning how to put yourself first can feel incredibly uncomfortable, even selfish. I see this all the time with people who are the dependable one, the strong one, the person everyone counts on. You’re the one who keeps the promises, solves the problems, […]

Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “I’m successful, so why don’t I feel fulfilled?” Reclaiming yourself starts with recognizing the parts of you that you’ve silenced, neglected, or abandoned in order to become the person you thought you needed to be. Maybe you’ve become incredibly good at being responsible, productive, dependable, successful, […]

Personal growth does not always require becoming someone new. Sometimes, it invites you to return to the parts of yourself that have been quieted, judged, or pushed aside. One of those parts may be the brave part of you. We often think of bravery as something bold and dramatic. We picture warriors, risk-takers, and people […]

What does relaxation for high achievers actually look like when you have spent years believing that pressure, productivity, and performance are what keep everything moving? For many of us, relaxing does not feel particularly relaxing. We may know that we are exhausted and even recognize that we need a break, but the moment we slow […]

There are many ways to learn how to process grief. Not all of them begin with losing someone you love. Grief can come from the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, a dream that did not happen, or a version of your life that is no longer available to you. It can […]

Wanting more isn’t selfish but somewhere along the way, many of us started believing it was. Maybe you’ve talked yourself out of asking for the promotion or stayed in a relationship that no longer fits. Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that your dreams are “too much,” “unrealistic,” or somehow unfair to everyone else. One of the […]