In the hustle and bustle of our fast-paced lives, it’s all too common for women to find themselves continually neglecting their own needs and well-being, often at the expense of their physical and mental health. The constant juggling of responsibilities, paired with societal pressures and self-imposed guilt, has led many to put themselves last on their ever-expanding to-do lists.
As a Wellness Coach, I am passionate about shedding light on the detrimental effects of neglecting oneself and providing actionable steps to break free from this cycle of self-sacrifice.
When I talk to my clients about the challenges they face, I often use the word “neglect”.
Neglect, in this context, refers to the habitual act of prioritizing the needs of others at the expense of your own.
It manifests in various ways – stress, weight gain, aches and pains in the body, poor sleep quality, unhealthy eating habits, difficulty focusing, lack of productivity, irritability, low sex drive, and an overall feeling of despair.
Too often, I see my clients ignoring these signs or their “check engine light” and they are usually one “fire drill” away from burning out. It’s crucial to acknowledge the signs of neglect in our daily lives, such as chronic exhaustion, overwhelming feelings, and a persistent sense of guilt for even considering self-care.
What I’ve found to be true for most is that our habit of neglect has deep-seated roots in trauma, which can stem from various sources:
I truly believe that we are moving into a true health crisis, as more and more women are beginning to feel and see the negative consequences of self-neglect. It is usually when the cost of living in a state of constant stress, burnout, and overwhelm becomes too great that we are forced to take action and break free from the habit of neglecting our physical and mental health.
This may look like dropping the ball on a big project, forgetting to pick up your child from school, getting a bad report from your doctor about your health, or having a panic attack in your car as you are driving to work.
So, how do we break the habit of neglecting ourselves?
When I am working with clients, I use a simple framework during our first few sessions, before we even start working on meal plans or exercise programs.
Only after these three phases have been completed, can we start the process of prioritizing self-care practices and I can truly support them with guidance, support, and accountability. Which I found to be what a lot of my clients struggled with in the past. They jumped right to the excessive workouts, restrictive diets, expensive procedures, and unrealistic expectations, without looking at the root cause of their self-neglect.
Though this approach may initially shock the system, it genuinely empowers clients from the inside out, paving the way for them to become healthier, happier, and more fulfilled versions of themselves. This, in essence, is what the Nourished Life is all about.
My mission is unequivocal: to help women liberate themselves from the cycle of self-sacrifice, heal from trauma, and incorporate self-care as a non-negotiable aspect of their daily lives. When we transition from being neglected to nourished, we can ensure we have the energy and strength to care for both others and ourselves. Remember, your well-being matters, and it’s time to make it a priority.